The Valentine

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Valentine’s Day is an annual celebration of romantic love, friendship, and admiration. When the question, “What is love?” is asked, the answers take on many forms. Love is a word used frequently, much of the time overused and misused in ways that make it casual and lose its meaning. However, there are some very famous quotes about love bringing the word back up to a level of powerful importance once again.

” I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love.” ~ Mother Teresa

“I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.” ~Martin Luther King Jr.

“We shall not long have love to man if we do not first and chiefly cultivate love to God.” ~ Charles Spurgeon

Entertainers like to chime in on “love” as well. Here are a couple…

“You always gain, by giving love.” ~ Reese Witherspoon

“It is a curious thought, but it is only when you see people looking ridiculous that you realize just how much you love them.” Agatha Christie

TRUE LOVE is more than a feeling! Love is more than an action! AND true love is not up for interpretation!

The real and full truth about love comes from knowing and experiencing that God Is Love! (1 John 4:8 and 1 John 4:16)

The question about love should not be, “What is love?”. The correct question about love is, “WHO IS LOVE?”.

“Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.” 1 John 4:8

“So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.” 1 John 4:16

HOW CAN WE TAKE PART IN THIS TRUE LOVE? Abide in God and let Him abide in you. Ask Jesus to be your Lord and Savior and to live in your heart!

HOW CAN WE LOVE, AND THEN IN TURN LOVE OTHERS? Because He first loved us! (1 John 4:19)

HOW MUCH DOES GOD LOVE US? He loves us so much that He gave His Only Son for us!!

“For God loved the world in this way: He gave His One and Only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

HOW DO WE SHOW THIS LOVE?

“This is the most important,” Jesus answered: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your mind, and with all your strength. The second is: Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no other command greater than these.” Mark 12:29-31

WHAT DOES LOVE LOOK LIKE WHEN WE LIVE IT OUT ACCORDING TO GOD’S PLAN?

“Love is patient, love is kind.
Love does not envy,
is not boastful, is not conceited,
does not act improperly,
is not selfish, is not provoked,
and does not keep a record of wrongs.
Love finds no joy in unrighteousness
but rejoices in the truth.
It bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.” I Corinthians 13:4-
7

“Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.” John 15:13

Valentine’s Day is upon us. It is a manmade day to celebrate love, particularly a romantic love. However, whether romantically involved or not, people have found fun ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Having been a teacher for 28 years, this day meant Valentine’s Day parties where the kids exchanged cards, and I received a lot of gestures of love!

How amazing it is that no matter the day, we can always experience a True Love that is more powerful than we can comprehend, never failing, and never ending! If you are a Christ-follower, than you have this Valentine from God:

“For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers,  nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39

When we are a Christ-follower, we can claim on Valentine’s Day and everyday and into eternity that, “My beloved is mine, and I am his.” (Song of Solomon 2:16).

In 1 John 4:19 we learn that “We love because He first loved us.” Thanks to God’s goodness, I have had the opportunity to show love and receive love in many ways during my life. I hope you have too. I put together a little photo gallery with captions that exemplify expressions of love that I have been blessed by God to experience or take part in throughout my life. There have been mountains and valleys, but God’s love for me and the way He also demonstrates His love through others in my life has been the prevailing force that spurs me on!

May you experience the fullness of God’s love today and everyday, and like me, reflect on how His love has touched your life!

Our wedding day, February 24th, 2017
What joy to be a mother!
My students forming a heart to emphasize kindness in our community.
Dog Love…a blessing from God as a reminder of His unconditional love!
My mom is an example of selfless love…a life lived of giving to her children and an example of living a life of deep faith in God.
My dad holding me shortly after arriving home from the hospital. Japan 1968
Michael’s family on our wedding day…a new family to belong to and be loved by.
This sweet couple in Haiti lovingly wanted to participate in the VBS experience alongside the children. They wanted to be a part of the excitement of learning about God!
It’s so exciting to watch the ones we love accept Jesus into their hearts and follow in believer’s baptism.
Lifelong friends are so special! We taught together, shared time together in book club, walked beside each other in faith, and remain a dear group of friends to this day!
The joys of teaching! It’s also a happy day when the teacher and student unknowingly show up in matching boots.
The love of a grandma presents a whole other level of comfort and love!
When you and the one you love accidently match, it’s just more confirmation of how you were meant to be together!
More dog love with this special pooch and “girl’s best friend”!
Michael is such a good dad to his sons. He is a Godly dad because he faithfully follows Christ.
Sister time! Having my sisters means friends for life and a level of protection you feel knowing they will go to battle for you.
Again, dogs are such special friends! Rueger is the newest addition.
It’s great when we can share adventures with those we love.
These two are an expression of years and years of faithful love and devotion to one another.
Shoebox gifts in Haiti! Share a box of love and the love of Jesus with a child.
Such sweetness!

Hmmm…too blessed to be stressed?

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“To Blessed to be Stressed” seems like a great saying at first glance. It implies that if you are counting your blessings and that you are trusting God, then you should not feel stressed. Is this true or false? I believe that it is a little bit of both. Let’s unpack this nifty little saying.

The definition of stress in relation to our minds is “a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances”.

Let’s face it…in this life on earth, you are going to have STRESS! In fact, the Bible confirms this…

We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair;  persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed;  always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies.” 2 Corinthians 4:8-10

Over the last year and especially the last five months or so, I have been under stress. I was in a waiting period with God over moving from Washington State back to Texas…wondering if this was God’s plan and purpose. As it became apparent that it was His plan, the slow transition began of relocating and adjusting. This involved moving, selling one home, deciding how to buy another while watching and waiting on the housing market. It involved saying good-bye to friends and hello to new ones. You have probably been there yourself. Anyone who has been involved in a big move and relocation knows that it falls under the definition of STRESS.

To be perfectly honest though, most of my life has involved the definition of stress. I was a teacher for 28 years. This is the epidemy of “mental or emotional strain resulting from very demanding circumstances”! The point is, we absolutely cannot avoid STRESS in this life!

Under this magnifying glass, I would say that our little saying is false. However, there is more to the picture. Undeniably, we are all going to experience stress…probably more frequently than we want. It is what we do with the stress that really matters though.

The reality of STRESS brings us to the crucial point of what to do with it. Will we FRET (worry and get anxious), or will we TRUST (be in a state of peace even under the stress and circumstances)? Probably if you are like me and most other people, you will start to get worried and anxious and allow a feeling of being overwhelmed to settle over you. If you are a Christian, you may allow yourself to feel guilty for letting stress get you down due to sayings like the one above and a misunderstanding of the reality of stress.

Fortunately, there are answers from God to help us with the real fact that we cannot live this life without stress. We can however, grab God’s hand, trust His solutions, believe His promises, and then choose the mindset of resting in His peace even during the tense and demanding circumstances.

Begin to look at stress as what it is…“a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances”. Then, begin to think of yourself as a conqueror through Christ in the midst of the stress. Trust God’s word:

“I can do all things through Him (Christ) who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13

Realize that you are going to be made better for the stress and experience:

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.  And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” James 1: 2-4

Understand that God knows what you are going through, and that He will provide the peace for you if you want it. Understand that He has perfect plans for you during the stress and in the future too:

“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

And finally, there is truth in the saying “too blessed to be stressed” in that if we focus on our blessings, then, we will be able to handle the inevitable stress in a victorious way. So take action, and remember to count your blessings by thanking and praising God not matter what is happening:

“Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” Ephesians 3:20-21

“Rejoice always, pray without ceasing,  give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

I chose a word for this year, and the word is VICTORIOUS! This is the pathway that I see through God’s word to live a victorious life no matter the circumstances. I pray that you too can choose a victorious pathway no matter the stresses that you may encounter this year. Through Christ, we can say blessed be the name of the Lord no matter what happens!

Physically Helping the Mental and Emotional Strain of Stress

As a Christ follower who is also a personal trainer, I can’t help but add to this post a little section about physical activity (yes…EXERCISE)! While we should always take our matters to God first if we want to experience His peace and His divine strength and blessings in our life, He being the master scientist, does give us natural avenues to utilize in helping us reduce stress in our lives. Because of all the advancements in the study of physical exercise, just about everyone knows that there is a direct correlation between exercise and the improvement of your mental and emotional state.

Even without the scientific studies, I know this to be true personally by experience and by the frequent comments from clients who feel immediately better after a training session. By this, I mean that physically, their bodies feel tired after working out, but mentally and emotionally, they often report feeling much better and even experience a better feeling throughout the day.

Scientifically, it is commonly agreed upon that adding any amount or form of exercise into your day will help pump up your brain’s feel-good neurotransmitters, called endorphins as well as reduce negative effects of stress and improve your overall mood.

The point is, choose some type of exercise activity to give yourself a boost. It could be a simple brisk morning walk. I like to begin each morning with a series of stretches that help loosen tight muscles. Make a little exercise corner in your home with some dumbbells and other small equipment to do some mild strength exercises. You might feel that now is the time to join a gym or make an even bigger commitment to physical fitness. At whatever level, just begin some form of exercise to help reduce the stress in your life.

To conclude, seek God first! Rejoice in Him, pray to Him, give thanks to Him, and trust Him. Then, make a plan to take some actions to help reduce stress and let exercise be an avenue to improving your mental and emotional state.

 But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

“For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.” Hebrews 12:11

While stress in inevitable, I hope that this article has given you some encouragement to handle life’s difficult circumstance in a victorious way!