Category: stress

On the Edge of My Seat

Read Time 6 Minutes

At the beginning of 2024, I was asked to participate in the activity of choosing a word for the year. I chose the word VICTORIOUS. I chose this word as a challenge to myself to live above the little things that can entangle me in my daily life. These “little things” are the things that can rob my peace…one such example is letting any amount of anxiety to be set in motion for the day.

The action to choose victory over anxiety is going to be a challenge over the next few months for many of us! As the political realm is picking up pace in the furry of preparing for election day in November, we can be rocked with emotions that can include a spectrum of sadness, anger, and fear!

When covid hit in 2020, I found myself encountering a feeling of underlying uneasiness to a more forceful feeling of being on the edge of my seat. I know I’m not alone in this either. It felt like one might feel in an action movie of suspense wondering what was going to happen next, or the feeling building inside when one is climbing upward on a roller coaster anticipating the fall. During covid, we were all wondering what would happen next. It was an uncertain and scary time.

Now, with the uptick of upheaval in the political race as well as just living in an upside down chaotic culture, I find myself battling these feelings again. In some moments, there is a level of fear for our country’s future. In other moments, there is sadness for the things I witness happening around us in our communities and the country as a whole. And still, other moments may include anger at unfolding events, how issues are handled, and how media reports on matters. Again, my guess is that I am not alone in these feelings!

The question then is, how do we remain VICTORIOUS over the tumultuous times that we are living in and the feelings that it can bring on us?

While probably nothing that I share in my writing is earth-shattering new, I write to remind myself and hopefully others how to stay steadfast in our walk with God and to encourage a spiritual and physical wellness as we live fully abiding in the True Vine!

In this article, I want to share some ways or a “recipe” as such that you and I can use to keep a hopeful and peaceful heart during uneasy times and get ourselves up and off the edge of our seats or at least off the “negative” edge of our seats!

First, instead of being an uneasy spectator filled with fear of what might happen next, let’s trade the focus for an exciting “edge of your seat” experience. Let’s anticipate with excitement how God will show us displays of His glory and His presence as events unfold. Remember, nothing takes Him by surprise! Let’s trust Him and lean hard into Him as we watch events around us. This can also include a “watching” for His return. We can remember that we are sojourners in this life. Whether Jesus comes back tomorrow or years from now, we as Christians, have a constant HOPE! We have a Living Hope that is above the earthly stage around us. We don’t have to be shaken because we have an eternal citizenship in Heaven. We get to watch the world arena from an everlasting perspective. What God allows us to experience here, He will give us the strength to endure and the hope to look at everything from the perspective of God’s got this! He has perfect plans, and we do not need to fear. He will take care of us through anything! Let’s keep our eyes focused on Him!

“But our citizenship is in heaven, and from it we await a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ, who will transform our lowly body to be like His glorious body, by the power that enables Him even to subject all things to Himself.” Philippians 3:20-21

“Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is faithful.” Hebrews 10:23

“…fear not, for I am with you;
    be not dismayed, for I am your God;
I will strengthen you, I will help you,
    I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10

Again, the way to be VICTORIOUS in the present roller coaster world stage is to keep our eyes turned on the One who will “subject all things to Himself”! As we keep our eyes on Him moment by moment, the natural outflow of this devotion will be to “shine our light” into this dark world. As we share with others the Hope we have in Jesus, may they also be drawn into a saving relationship with Him! When others turn to Jesus because of our hopeful Christ-centered living, that makes a double victory!!

In addition to making Jesus our number one focus and desire, I’d like to continue the “recipe” for living a victorious life. By His perfect design, God gives us more ways that we can live life to the fullest and not be weighed down with anxiety. We can get up off the edge of our seat with meaningful activities that help to counteract the temptation to be anxious and keep us healthy and strong.

“Therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, I urge you to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God; this is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this age, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God.” Romans 12: 1-2

“…for while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.” 1 Timothy 4:8

These verses reinforce that staying steadfast in our focus on Him (renewing our mind and living in godliness) is the top priority to living a triumphant life. However, if you look closely, there are some additional outlets that God provides to help us stay feeling healthy and well and upbeat. He cares about our bodies too and what we do with them.

Therefore, another ingredient to keeping ourselves from the temptation to live in a roller coaster of fear, is to partake in the activity of taking care of our bodies. This is a God-designed natural stress reliever! There is some value to this (1 Tim. 4:8). He wants us to be healthy and well. He designed our bodies to need food, sleep, and physical activity. When we allow any of these areas to go uncared for, we begin to feel depleted physically, mentally, and emotionally.

It is common and proven knowledge that if we are not eating well, not doing our best to get sleep, or not getting regular physical activity, then we are denying ourselves a natural stress relief! All three of these promote a better sense of well-being and lead to a more positive outlook on life. By partaking in exercise, healthy eating, and rest, we feel better not only physically, but emotionally and mentally too!

We need to replace thinking about unhealthy stressful circumstances to thinking about healthy living. Rather than watching too much news or spending too much time on social media, we can make a better sleeping plan or a better meal plan. And by all means we need to make sure we add exercise and physical activities into our life.

Finally, another way that God delights us in this life and offers a dynamic way to relieve stress and anxiety is to partake in the glorious beauty of His creation!

“The heavens declare the glory of God,
and the sky proclaims the work of His hand.” Psalm 19:1

When we take time to enjoy His handiwork…the sky, the trees, the animals, the water, the landforms…we feel refreshed! Just taking a country drive and observing the cows grazing peacefully on the grass refreshes me. They do not fret! Watching the birds go about their business is a pleasure as well. They are not worried. These encounters remind me that the God who cares for animals cares for me too!

So, join me in getting up off the edge of your seat during these uncertain times. I believe that the recipe for living a VICTORIOUS life no matter what the circumstances is to renew your mind by looking to Jesus. Trust Him…lean on Him…stay focused on Him! Take care of your body, for this is pleasing to God too! And, take a walk to soak up God’s creation! Enjoy His beauty found all around in nature! Let’s live in this kind of hopeful peacefulness today!

Hmmm…too blessed to be stressed?

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“To Blessed to be Stressed” seems like a great saying at first glance. It implies that if you are counting your blessings and that you are trusting God, then you should not feel stressed. Is this true or false? I believe that it is a little bit of both. Let’s unpack this nifty little saying.

The definition of stress in relation to our minds is “a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances”.

Let’s face it…in this life on earth, you are going to have STRESS! In fact, the Bible confirms this…

“We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair;  persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed;  always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies.” 2 Corinthians 4:8-10

Over the last year and especially the last five months or so, I have been under stress. I was in a waiting period with God over moving from Washington State back to Texas…wondering if this was God’s plan and purpose. As it became apparent that it was His plan, the slow transition began of relocating and adjusting. This involved moving, selling one home, deciding how to buy another while watching and waiting on the housing market. It involved saying good-bye to friends and hello to new ones. You have probably been there yourself. Anyone who has been involved in a big move and relocation knows that it falls under the definition of STRESS.

To be perfectly honest though, most of my life has involved the definition of stress. I was a teacher for 28 years. This is the epidemy of “mental or emotional strain resulting from very demanding circumstances”! The point is, we absolutely cannot avoid STRESS in this life!

Under this magnifying glass, I would say that our little saying is false. However, there is more to the picture. Undeniably, we are all going to experience stress…probably more frequently than we want. It is what we do with the stress that really matters though.

The reality of STRESS brings us to the crucial point of what to do with it. Will we FRET (worry and get anxious), or will we TRUST (be in a state of peace even under the stress and circumstances)? Probably if you are like me and most other people, you will start to get worried and anxious and allow a feeling of being overwhelmed to settle over you. If you are a Christian, you may allow yourself to feel guilty for letting stress get you down due to sayings like the one above and a misunderstanding of the reality of stress.

Fortunately, there are answers from God to help us with the real fact that we cannot live this life without stress. We can however, grab God’s hand, trust His solutions, believe His promises, and then choose the mindset of resting in His peace even during the tense and demanding circumstances.

Begin to look at stress as what it is…“a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances”. Then, begin to think of yourself as a conqueror through Christ in the midst of the stress. Trust God’s word:

“I can do all things through Him (Christ) who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13

Realize that you are going to be made better for the stress and experience:

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.  And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” James 1: 2-4

Understand that God knows what you are going through, and that He will provide the peace for you if you want it. Understand that He has perfect plans for you during the stress and in the future too:

“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

“And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28

And finally, there is truth in the saying “too blessed to be stressed” in that if we focus on our blessings, then, we will be able to handle the inevitable stress in a victorious way. So take action, and remember to count your blessings by thanking and praising God not matter what is happening:

“Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” Ephesians 3:20-21

“Rejoice always, pray without ceasing,  give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18

I chose a word for this year, and the word is VICTORIOUS! This is the pathway that I see through God’s word to live a victorious life no matter the circumstances. I pray that you too can choose a victorious pathway no matter the stresses that you may encounter this year. Through Christ, we can say blessed be the name of the Lord no matter what happens!

Physically Helping the Mental and Emotional Strain of Stress

As a Christ follower who is also a personal trainer, I can’t help but add to this post a little section about physical activity (yes…EXERCISE)! While we should always take our matters to God first if we want to experience His peace and His divine strength and blessings in our life, He being the master scientist, does give us natural avenues to utilize in helping us reduce stress in our lives. Because of all the advancements in the study of physical exercise, just about everyone knows that there is a direct correlation between exercise and the improvement of your mental and emotional state.

Even without the scientific studies, I know this to be true personally by experience and by the frequent comments from clients who feel immediately better after a training session. By this, I mean that physically, their bodies feel tired after working out, but mentally and emotionally, they often report feeling much better and even experience a better feeling throughout the day.

Scientifically, it is commonly agreed upon that adding any amount or form of exercise into your day will help pump up your brain’s feel-good neurotransmitters, called endorphins as well as reduce negative effects of stress and improve your overall mood.

The point is, choose some type of exercise activity to give yourself a boost. It could be a simple brisk morning walk. I like to begin each morning with a series of stretches that help loosen tight muscles. Make a little exercise corner in your home with some dumbbells and other small equipment to do some mild strength exercises. You might feel that now is the time to join a gym or make an even bigger commitment to physical fitness. At whatever level, just begin some form of exercise to help reduce the stress in your life.

To conclude, seek God first! Rejoice in Him, pray to Him, give thanks to Him, and trust Him. Then, make a plan to take some actions to help reduce stress and let exercise be an avenue to improving your mental and emotional state.

“ But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.” Matthew 6:33

“For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.” Hebrews 12:11

While stress in inevitable, I hope that this article has given you some encouragement to handle life’s difficult circumstance in a victorious way!